What men and boys are missing in 2018

The gradual de-masculinization of the progressive male had good intention.  The criticisms of how men were being raised were varied and valid:
1) Men aren't allowed to show emotion
2) Men are not allowed to show weakness
3) Men are sex driven pigs
4) Men demean and marginalize women
5) Men are violent
6) Men are selfish narcissists

With the sexual revolution and the rise of feminism, society went about remaking boys and men into a newer, softer version.  The goal was laudable.  And in progressive areas, tremendous strides have been made to create these nicer men.  But like with all changes, there's the potential for an over-correction.  In this case, I'm writing about boys and men that are too nice.  When taught to suppress their aggression, they are left searching for meaning.  Boys and men are looking for ways to channel this aggression.  Sports, career, hobbies - it doesn't matter.  Male biology is looking to *do* something.  Men want something to put our heart and soul into and attack with relentless abandon. 

Without aggression and with the progressive reinforced message of being kind through childhood, several new problems emerged.  As documented by Dr. Warren Farrell in The Boy Crisis, boys are falling behind.  They are less motivated.  They are more likely to be addicted to drugs, porn, and video games.  The short reason why: the lack of masculine direction. 

Another problem - the nice guy.  A nice guy is this new softer male who avoids conflict, people pleases, and generally has trouble with women (a sweet irony because the nice guy tries to be exactly what women says they want - a kind person who puts women on a pedestal).  In general, the nice guy is uncomfortable expressing masculine traits, and he attempts relate with a more feminine energy.  These men don't always realize it, but they are miserable.  Dr. Robert Glover wrote about this brilliantly in No More Mr. Nice Guy.

What's sad is what Dr. Farrell and Dr. Glover write about is that society is espousing a broken paradigm for raising boys.  More and more boys and men are being created via this broken paradigm everyday.  I'm not advocating for a return to the overly macho male patterns of past, but a middle road.  Men need their aggression harnessed and directed.  This will make boys and men happier and more fulfilled.