Men are hunters

Men are metaphorical hunters.  There's something deep inside men that causes us to seek things out and go after them.  That "thing" we're after varies wildly from man to man, but it can come in the form of nearly anything - fame, fortune, success, power, women, adventure, or nearly anything.  It's a male reflex deep inside our DNA that points us toward a goal and gives us a fire inside to go after that goal with aggression, relentlessness, and passion.

The fire that fuels a man's hunt has a dark side.  When the fire is not properly harnessed or not used ethically, the fire can be detrimental to individuals and to society.  When viewing the world as a zero sum game and with no semblance of empathy, masculine fire can bring about the worst parts of humanity: rape, theft, war, violence, genocide.  This untempered fire is really hyper-masculinity.  We have learned that masculine aggression without the corresponding feminine compassion is unhealthy

Noting that masculine fire has this potential for darkness (sometimes called toxic masculinity), progressive society began teaching a more a softer, more feminine style of behavior and thinking to boys.  The idea was that men were not happy with their hyper-masculine box and society would be better with men that were more kind.  The idea made sense.  But the idea had a flaw.  The masculine is not docile.  The fire is a leverage point in a man's behavior that he uses to find his place in the world.  The fire should be tempered, but it should not be extinguished.

When a boy or man is taught that kindness/love/empathy should make him happy, he gets confused.  Like a border collie that has a deep instinct to herd sheep . . . the border collie will be a comfort dog if that is what is required of him.  But the border collie won't be living his gift.  He won't be embodying the instinctual drive deeply ingrained in his being that not only matches his soul, but makes him genuinely happy.  Much like a border collie, men have a gift.  That gift is the hunt.  The hunt is driven by the fire.  By not teaching boys and men to harness their fire and hunt properly, men are not able to give their gift to the world.